Brutally Honest Confessions 4 : The one where we handle day to day stress

There couldn’t have been a more apt topic for this weeks instalment in this series, which was actually suggested by Sally in the Facebook group.

Honestly? My first response to stress is to go to bed, pull the covers up over my head and sleep, or to cry, in fact its usually a bit of both! I hate to be stressed or feel under pressure which is why I use planners to work everything out and plan my events and work, trouble is I also like to work on adrenaline and get bored very quickly so I tend to leave tasks until the very last minute, which is fine until something comes up and pushes everything back, thats when adrenaline turns to stress and I cry.

I have become very good at balancing myself so that I do not find myself in this awful place very often (eat!! I forgot to add I eat, ALOT, when I am stressed and never healthy salad its always cake and chocolate) I have a main planner, Erin Condren Life Planner, which I use to plan my daily life and contains lots and lots of To Do’s and deadlines, then I have individual planners for my Vlog & Blog, Etsy Shop and a daily planner which has my daily To Do and Goals on. I have been listening to The Miracle Morning on ebook and it has really helped me to take control of my day, i’ve not quite made it to starting the 30 day challenge (when I start I will let you know) but I have changed my morning routine to incorporate sitting for 5 minutes in peace and quite and writing in my journal, I make a master list of what I need to do in that day and highlight the most important, it keeps me on track and helps me to set realistic goals for the day.

This week has been particularly stressful in that I have had 2 sets of Planner Subscription Boxes to send out, which meant 2 sets of stickers to design, 2 set son accessories to design and make and 2 sets of listings to promote and advertise, I had a month to do it and everything would have been OKAY if the sun hadn’t been shining and I hadn’t taken a few days off to enjoy it with the children, but thats what life is for, right? I’ve worked really hard to change my habits and become productive, so I scheduled my time and kept lots of lists, I scheduled breaks and made sure I had lots of healthy food to snack on, I booked some personal training sessions and made sure I went to all my rugby training sessions. Exersize really does help to clear your mind, not to mention the stress management factor of smashing into someone 6″ taller than you and 2 stone heavier and taking them off their feet and then having them do it back (and that was just a training session) rugby is my physical release.

Thanks for reading, and thank you to Sally for todays topic. If you have a topic you would like to hear our opinion on or if you would like to join in with this series on your own blog/vlog then please get in touch BH_Confessions@yahoo.com and please make sure you check Emma’s post on this topic over at The Stationery Geekette.

Michelle (aka Ugly Bug)

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Make Up Routine : The one with the Jodie Marsh eyes

I’m still not 100% on track with my new schedule, but today I didn’t want to not post, even though I haven’t managed to find enough life hacks to try, or have the chance to film them.

Instead I decided to go in a different direction, one that I love and that I hope to feature more of. I was inspired by Jodie Marsh’s latest upload of her eye make up routine, I loved the finished look but wondered if it was possible to recreate with high street products (she uses some high street products mixed with some higher priced items). So as we celebrated our anniversary this week I decided to try it out and film the process.

Catch up, Gym Diaries, Paperchase planner review.

Its late here and I’m waiting for my newest Vlog to upload to YouTube. Trevor went up to settle the baby about 3 hours ago and hasn’t come back down.. even though it is our 10 year anniversary and we were going to watch  film and have a chilled night… one of the blessings when you have small children.

I decided to film my blog and have a catch up for all the posts i’ve missed this week. We’ve had a problem with identity theft this week and I’ve had a lot on my plate with trying to deal with that.

I’ve done one mega catch up video and covered Tuesday’s gym diaries, Wednesdays “What I think” and todays review of my new personal Paperchase planner.

Tomorrow’s blog post comes straight from the heart and you may need a tissue or 2.. it’s the second in the “Brutally Honest Confessions : Normal Women Trying To Get By” and this weeks title is : The One With The Letter From The Heart.

Thanks for reading.
Michelle xx

Brutally Honest Confessions, Normal women trying to get by : The one with the letter from the heart

 

As I sit here, opposite you in the hospital room, I watch you sleep off the anaesthetic from this mornings surgery and the night shift you finished just 3 hours before you were admitted to hospital. It was a planned hernia operation so we were well prepared, you wanted to work the shift before your operation because you’re worried about how long you’ll have to be off of work. You wanted to make sure there was enough money to cover our bills and pay the rent and that’s one reason I love you so much.

In 7 days we celebrate our anniversary, we’ll have been together for 10 years, the time has flown, it’s a funny thing…..time, I thought it was just something that happened, I’ve never though of us aging or maturing, to me we will always be that same, stupid, couple who fell in love instantly  and wanted nothing more than each other.  But we have grown older, our bodies have changed, not for the worst either… Yours has yoyo’d in weight and won a body building competition, mine has given us 3 beautiful babies.

Our lives are different now, we’re not as care free, we have responsibilities. But it’s still fun, we’re still stupid and we are still as crazy in love as the day we met. We have more in common than ever before, those 3 tiny pieces of our hearts who bring so much love, happiness, stress, worry and fear into our lives.

The kids were so worried when we dropped you off, Not for the first time did I realise how lucky they are to have you I n their lives, a daddy who loves and cares for them and would lay down his own life to protect each and every one of them!

Life was never meant to be about the material things, we never had dreams of grandeur, we only ever wanted to live a simple life with just enough to get us by, but I’ve gone off track, I’ve been sucked into living a life with far more wants and needs than I would ever have imagined, the need to “keep up with the joneses” and to fit in with everyone else’s idea of what life should be. For us it was always just being together, we always were our happiest when we were driving around in our clapped out trucks, without a penny to our name or a worry in our hearts. Don’t get me wrong I love our life, I love providing for our children, but this is what matters, us… together. When our time comes to an end (which I hope is many many many years away) nothing will matter but the time, we won’t remember how much money was in the bank or how tidy the house was, we won’t remember how many Instagram followers we had or that the kids had cereal for tea but we will remember the time, the happy times and the sad. We’ll remember the smiles and the laughs, the tears and the tantrums.

lets remember all of this the next time we’re tired from working late when the kids want to go to the park, we won’t remember the time we were tired but we will remember their little faces as they whizz round the park or down the road on their bikes. Let’s live life today, like we always planned, and make today the best day of our life.. Each and every day!!

As I watch you sleep this is my promise to you, myself and our children, I promise to try to remember how I feel now, I promise to try to remember that play time is more important than work time and I promise you that “Date Nights” no longer need to be scheduled in between my work schedule.. It always should have been the other way round, work can wait time does not.

I love you from the bottom of my heart xx

Confessions of a Plannerholic 3 : The one with the Q&A

For this weeks entry to this series we had a list of questions put together by the lovely Emma who has coordinated this series for us. I decided to film mine for my vlog.

 

Don’t forget to check out the other awesome ladies in this series and have a read of their answers:

Emma Smith – https://thestationerygeekette.com

Katy Evans – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm2ehww-io6YZGL1kNchynA

Kelly Vizma – https://abeautifulplan.co.uk/

Vicky Buckley – http://beautifullybrokenvicky.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

Jo Whight – http://pennygatecrafts.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

Emma Hinks  – https://soggymusings.wordpress.com/